Posted by zenhussy on January 3, 2008, at 12:38:22
In reply to This is agony for me, posted by ClearSkies on January 3, 2008, at 9:27:21
read over your posts in relationships from June, July and August of last year to see how much you've done for her already!!
please do what you need to FOR YOU so that your well being isn't affected by DSD's ongoing situation.
you can lead a horse to water.....
it is hard to "give up" and "walk away" from an unhealthy situation yet often those are the best choices one can make.
you're not giving up on her. you're not throwing in the towel on her. you're disengaging from her chaos and craziness and addiction and all the rest.
take care of CS first, then do what you're able to do for DH.....THEN and only then focus energies on DSD and her most basic needs of being baby-sat and so on. forget about websites and hotlines. she's not in any shape to heed any of that right now.
prayers until her program starts and continuing prayers for her to wake up and start living again.
she isn't your responsibility CS......YOU are your responsibility......beyond that are the choices you make as to what to do w/ your energy and heart.
of course a compassionate person wishes they could do more for someone deep in addiction. addiction can rob one of all common sense and most of their worldly possessions and connections. hope that DSD has reached her personal bottom and is ready to climb back up and out. only SHE can tell when that day has come. keep taking care of YOU first please!!
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