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Posted by CareBear04 on January 22, 2004, at 20:54:03
Ok, I'm not sure this is the right board for this question. But does anyone have scars from past or current self injury? Have you been with anyone since then and how have you explained them? When your therapist asks about sex, do you mention how your scars might be inhibiting your sex life? I guess it's relevant, but I'm too embarrassed to bring it up. Has your pdoc ever prescribed medication for scars? Or do you have to see a dermatologist or other specialist for that? Do you have to show the scars? What if they're in a ... should we say, not so accessible place? Any experiences would be much appreciated.
Posted by terrics on January 23, 2004, at 15:36:22
In reply to Scars and sex, posted by CareBear04 on January 22, 2004, at 20:54:03
Hi, I have a similar problem. However I am married so sex is no big deal. I turn my back on my husband when I undress and then turn the light out. [He knows nothing about the scars]
I think perhaps your problem is more complicated. If you are with someone you really like could you introduce him to your problem slowly...by talking about it first? terrics
Posted by cubic_me on January 25, 2004, at 15:44:58
In reply to Re: Scars and sex, posted by terrics on January 23, 2004, at 15:36:22
I currently self harm, so I've got old and new scars. My boyfriend (of over a year) didn't know about the cutting until the scars I had were too obvious to hide and I had to tell him. In the year before I told him I used to wear bracelets up my arms all the time, never taking them off until the light was out. I harmed between my toes, around my ankles and behind my knees where he was less likely to see.
Recently I've been using Olay regenerist cream to reduce my scarring. Its meant for wrinkles, but its got something in it that increases cell production, and its working wonders, especially on my newer scars. I moisturise them and put vitamin E cream on them, which seems to help, and put foundation on to cover them when I need to. There is a cream called dermablend to cover scars which I've heard is good, but I think you can only get it on prescription.
My boyfriend never noticed my scars until I told him about them, even the ones in the shape of words! He noticed a couple on my arm, but I just said I'd cut it on glass when I was younger.
Its definately something you can bring up with your T. If its worrying you then its definately worthy of being a topic of conversation. I'm very aware that my boyfriend might see my cuts/scars, especially in certain positons!
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