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Posted by Dinah on February 11, 2009, at 10:39:29
Nearly literally.
Apparently my house is at that age where everything decides to break at once. I'm not sure why this should be so, since over the years my husband jokes that we have replaced so many parts that the house we live in now merely occupies the same space as the original house.
Sigh. It's not just the inconvenience or the money, though that is certainly bad enough and darn scary in today's economy. But my husband gets so tense and brittle that I worry that he'll have a coronary. And my son and I both tend to find negative emotions contagious. His tension and anxiety and anger isn't staying in his own body. It's leaking out everywhere, even if he doesn't say anything or do anything.
If I didn't know better, I'd be tempted to slip a Klonopin in his orange juice.
I'm a master worrier and prone to anxiety attacks myself. But there's no way to do anything about this other than to call the repair people.
Posted by Phillipa on February 11, 2009, at 10:43:35
In reply to When it rains it pours., posted by Dinah on February 11, 2009, at 10:39:29
Same thing pdoc said to me all you do is worry. Dinah lucky you can afford repair people can't and then the worry sets in what to do? So I've found after five years in a house things start to go wrong. Just my experience. Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on February 11, 2009, at 11:41:35
In reply to Re: When it rains it pours. » Dinah, posted by Phillipa on February 11, 2009, at 10:43:35
Well, if we had to do it ourselves, the house would fall down, I think.
After the last big repair, I don't know that we can really afford it any more. Which I know is why my husband is tense about it. And I'm sympathetic. I don't like debt either. I'm definitely cutting back on my expenses. I can see getting depressed.
I suppose my son and I are just pretty sensitive to moods, and tense and angry feels like tense and angry whether it's directed to us or not. My son gets upset which upsets me more. My husband thinks we're too sensitive, which may be true.
Posted by Kath on February 11, 2009, at 14:59:21
In reply to Re: When it rains it pours. » Phillipa, posted by Dinah on February 11, 2009, at 11:41:35
I dunno about too sensitive.
You just are like ya are!
I get affected by others' tenseness, anger, etc.
Funny - I get WAY more affected by their 'negative' emotions that their positive ones.
So sorry Dinah.
xoxo Kath
Posted by Dinah on February 11, 2009, at 17:47:41
In reply to Re: When it rains it pours. » Dinah, posted by Kath on February 11, 2009, at 14:59:21
Well, I used to blame myself entirely.
But my son is, if anything, even more sensitive than I am. He can open up the car door and ask me what's wrong before he's totally inside. Even if I am not aware that whatever is on my mind is showing. Even if it isn't directly on my mind! He does the same with his dad, even more quickly than I do.
So much for my theory that I learned that skill by living with volatile parents. I may hate it when my husband is tense and anxious and angry. But he's nothing at all like my parents.
Obviously he'd be the tribe member who would note the vibrations of approaching visitors, or smell the difference between food that was safe to eat and food that wasn't. :)
My son is clearly the most delightful person ever. So it can't be a trait to be deplored, right?
Posted by JadeKelly on February 11, 2009, at 19:36:27
In reply to Re: When it rains it pours. » Kath, posted by Dinah on February 11, 2009, at 17:47:41
I have twin boys 18yr. One is very sensitive and intuitive. He is very emotional. When he's angry better to leave asap. But he gives me hugs, he tells me he loves me, and if he sees something is wrong with me he asks if he can get me anything and am I alright.
My other son sees me as a bank, haha. I know he loves me but he would never say it. He has no idea how I'm feeling at any given time and I don't think he cares to know. Of course he's a teenager.
But arent we lucky to have a son "that is clearly the most delightful person ever"? He can be such a joy to be around. I feel blessed.
~Jade
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