Posted by AuntieMel on February 25, 2005, at 11:54:52
In reply to Differing parenting strategies, posted by Dinah on February 24, 2005, at 11:26:21
My son was always bringing notes home from school for some disruption or another - talking - getting up from his seat [I was only giving her a pencil] etc.
I was so ignorant then that I thought these were punishable offenses. Time out didn't work, taking away little league didn't work. In frustration I resorted to spanking.
Then I went to talk to the teacher [I still regret I didn't do this first] and she said 'oh, don't worry too much about the notes, all the kids get them. your son isn't any worse than any of the others'
I couldn't even show her how angry I was about the notes because I was so ashamed of how I treated him. I still live with that guilt.
So, maybe the notes are just supposed to be information and they shouldn't be taken too seriously. But it sure sounds like he's hard enough on himself that nothing more is needed - except to sit down and discuss what he was upset about.
My two cents - based on my personal experience.
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