Posted by fairywings on January 1, 2006, at 17:15:55
In reply to Should I punish my child, posted by lynn971 on December 30, 2005, at 21:17:09
Hi Lynn,
I hope you don't punish her. She did what she thought would spare the other girl, she wasn't mean to her. I'm sure you remember not wanting to be associated with the excluded person. She doesn't want to feel the pain this other girl feels, and it's not her responsibility to make sure the girl feels good about herself.
I don't think it was right of her mom to call you. I'm sure she feels the pain of her child, but again you and your child are not responsible for someone else's feelings. Is there a reason why this child is singled out? Maybe her mom would do better to help her child overcome those difficulties instead of helping her feel like a victim.
Talking to your daughter about lying, and how it feels to be singled out might be very helpful, but she shouldn't feel responsible. At least she was more caring than the others who were laughing at the girl.
Sorry if this sounds harsh. Been there.
fw
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