Posted by Maxime on October 4, 2005, at 11:54:40
In reply to Re: I don't get it, posted by Sonya on October 2, 2005, at 10:15:46
You can most definately have an ED without being thin. I barely eat anything and I am not thin. My metabolism is screwed up and I have a thyroid problem. I use to be severely underweight. Now I have weight to lose based on my BMI.
Eating disorders give you a false sense of control.Truth is, they control you. Based on your fear of food, calories and weight you have all the thoughts of someone who has an eating disoder. You should check out www.somethingfishy.org for more information. There is also a discussion group on there that is really good. There isn't too much traffic on this one.
Do you really think you will be happy at 137 pounds? I thought I would be happy at 95 pounds but I ended up going into the low 70's and then into the hospital.
I'm sorry that your doctor isn't listening to you. It's hard to admit that you have an eating disorder and he pushed you away ... shame on him!
Trying talking your T.
Oh and listen to Racer because she is really smart. :-)
You can Babble Mail me anytime.
Take care,
Maxime
> Thanks for the response, Racer.
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> I have no patience. When I need to lose weight, I need to lose it fast. If I try staying on 1,200 cal/day, I won't be able to stick to the diet and will sabotage myself.
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> Is it really possible I have an ED even though I'm not getting really thin? I was overweight for my age and height before. I'm 5'7", age 51. I went from 157 to 142 in 4 weeks. My goal (ideal weight) is 137. Even if I semi-starve myself to get there, I then plan on maintaining it by being diligent. I won't continue to try to lose weight. This seems practical to me. I'm just afraid now that I won't lose more because my metabolism is too slow, so I'm trying to exercise more. (Thankfully did lose another lb since yesterday morning.)
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> I do have a T but we haven't talked about the weight issue. But I've told my pdoc and he said the loss was due to depression.
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> There's a two-fold reason for me doing this. I want to be thinner so I look better and have more energy, and I want to feel in control of something (I know this one is the issue I need to work on).
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> I can completely understand how this kind of thing could get out of hand but I feel I'm in control. Must say though my hubby is getting upset that I hardly eat and can't stand socializing with friends because it usually revolves around food. Yet he compliments me on how I look (he didn't compliment me on my figure when I was overweight).
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> The thought of 1,200 cal/per day is way too scary right now and I just can't do it.
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> > If you eat fewer than 1200 calories per day, your metabolism will slow waaaaaayyyy down. The only way to lose more at that point is to go into a state of semi-starvation, which puts you at risk of organ failure, among other things. Basically, even at this point, you're experiencing an eating disorder. You're probably also dealing with a distorted body image.
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> > I know how seductive EDs can be, but it's well worth working on it NOW, rather than waiting for it to get worse. Do you have a T? Can you bring this up? If so, do. If you don't have a T, this might be a good time to get one. Support groups like those run by ANAD are another good resource for you.
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> > Now for my question: in ED groups, one of the little 'mantras' is "use your voice!" It means that a lot of us are trying to communicate something through our bodies. Can you feel what you're trying to communicate through your restricted eating and self-starvation? Can you identify what being so thin means to you?
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> > Just questions. I don't necessarily know all my answers to those questions, but it's worth asking them all the same...
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poster:Maxime
thread:561514
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