Posted by Racer on February 18, 2006, at 11:49:37
In reply to Re: I wish I could just tell her! » Maxime, posted by Poet on February 16, 2006, at 22:15:10
Your mother knows that you used to have a problem, but doesn't know that you do now, right? Could you tell her that -- just as a residue from that, nothing to do with now, you see -- it's very stressful for you to have her urging you to eat more? Maybe say that that sort of thing leads to the sorts of feelings that gave you the ED in the first place?
And don't cut yourself. I know, and I know you know I know. Just -- take better care of you. Take the kind of care of you that you'd take of me if you could. Or that I'd take of you if I could.
My own mother is good for the same sorts of things, although she tends to do things like, when i'm thin, pointing out every overweight woman in the area and criticising her. She talks all the time about fat people, how awful they are, etc -- and I know that she's worried about me, but she can't express it so it comes out in a way sure to make me feel as though I have to lose weight! Or she pretends that nothing's wrong with me. Or assumes that, since I'm fat now, that I must be fine, and willing to eat anything at any time.
Whoops -- I'm triggering myself, so gonna stop. Just trying to tell you that mothers can be triggering. And suggest the whole "just don't talk about eating with me, 'K?" thing.
Good luck.
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