Posted by Racer on May 25, 2006, at 21:13:14
In reply to I am so hideously fat - trigger-trigger-trigger, posted by TexasChic on May 25, 2006, at 21:02:43
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> Would it be entirely out of line on this board for me to ask for recommendations for a appetite suppressant (Rx or OTC)?Yeah, I think it probably would be out of line on this board. Plus, since this is a board about eating *disorders,* I can almost guarantee that none of the suggestions would be healthy...
What we can do, though, is to talk about how you feel regarding your weight. That's maybe helpful for you?
>I'm just so distraught with my weight right now. I feel like this is it, I will never be any smaller again, only bigger. When I walk into the bathroom at work all I see is how wide my hips are, and I think, what guy would ever be interested in THIS??? I'm way more upset inside than I ever let on, even to myself. Yesterday a guy looked me up and down (cuteboy for those who are familiar) and all I could think was, "He's thinking of how fat I am."
>You know, I could start by telling you all the realities around this, but that wouldn't do any good whatsoever. Even if EVERY other "fat" woman had a George Clooney clone drooling over her, it still wouldn't help much, would it?
All I can think of, though, is to remind you that your worth is not based on your weight, nor your dress size. It might be that if you can remind yourself of that every time you start thinking of your weight, it will eventually replace the "fat" thoughts. Sort of CBT style replacement of the negative with the positive.
For what it's worth, I have actually lost weight recently, I'm underweight again, and I had two finals today, including a maths final. When I left that final, on which I did abysmally badly, I called a friend to say, "I did terribly on the maths final -- and it's because I have FAT THIGHS!" What you're doing, in thinking in terms of fat/thin, is likely to continue no matter what your weight. Working on ccountering the thoughts and the feelings they bring up is probably more productive.
> Just looking for support.
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> -TThat you got, and I do hope things get easier for you soon.
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