Posted by Racer on August 15, 2007, at 22:58:32
I'm having a bad day. One of the many things that got under my skin today involved the daughter of a friend. Said friend died a couple of years ago, and her daughter calls periodically in crisis.
During today's call, she included, '...and now I think I've developed an eating disorder..." First of all, she's had bariatric surgery, because she really and truly did have an eating disorder: obesity caused by binge eating.
But what really got to me is that she's always looking for attention, with her "I'm in such a crisis, someone save me!" dramas -- and this is yet another of those dramas. She knows I've got an eating disorder -- her mother was my friend for over 20 years, and was often upset about me and my weight. It just felt as though she was throwing that in to get a response from me.
And it's upsetting. When I say I suffer from an eating disorder, it's because I SUFFER from an eating disorder. I have spent enough of my life in abject misery from this, and I know she's looking for attention -- she's done this before, telling another woman I know the same thing, only to be shown to be making it up. It's just that this is the first time she's tried it on with me. I just feel so impotent, somehow -- I'm angry, because I feel as though it was partly a slap at me -- she has a history of that behavior, by the way -- and also because I felt as though my suffering was being trivialized. As though an eating disorder was something that could be picked up and put back down at any time.
I just had to vent, and hoped someone here would understand why this was so upsetting to me.
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