Posted by ClearSkies on August 18, 2007, at 13:27:31
In reply to Re: Someone pretending to have an ED... » Cecilia, posted by Racer on August 17, 2007, at 23:00:02
First of all, a hug is in order ((((Racer)))) because I know that having lost a good friend in the first place is difficult enough, but then to be the sympathetic ear to their child is almost like facing that loss over and over again.
((((Racer))))Second, perhaps there is a good time to say, "Whoops, you know, my dishes are begging me to wash them just this second, I gotta run," or "Say, the light just changed to green and I need both hands AND my ears to drive - I'll call you back." and end the call. I guess I'm suggesting that it's not the best thing in the world for you to be listening to what this person has to say right now, and that an out, any out, from a conversation, would be a healthy thing for you to do. I don't think, from my understanding of this person, that she'd be prepared to respond to you saying. "I'm sorry, but I can't really listen to what you have to say because it's causing me pain." It's going to be beyond her comprehension. (So being honest with her would be a painful exercise for you and she wouldn't get it anyway.)
Sometimes being there to listen to someone else's problems isn't the best thing for them (i.e., she's not ever likely to act on advice given in good faith), and it definitely isn't in your best interests to listen to her skewed ED stories.
I think we have to be very careful to surround ourselves with positive influences in as many areas of our lives as possible.
I'm sorry, too, Racer, if the other thread that LlurpsieNoodle and I are engaging in on this board are difficult for you.
ClearSkies
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