Posted by Michael83 on July 7, 2006, at 1:43:36
In reply to Re: Low self esteem, the biggest source of problem » Michael83, posted by Racer on July 7, 2006, at 1:26:52
>>>>>As for you, young man, lemme just suggest something to you that might help: approach "girls" as if they were people. We tend to go for that approach, you know. Sure, that's a flip way of saying it, but it sounds to me as though you're approaching women as potential girlfriends, rather than potential friends. Make friends, and you'll find yourself with a girlfriend.
I'd be scared of then ruining a good friendship with a "girlfriend/boyfrield" type relationship.
Meaningful friendships are meant to be long term, and comfortable. Dating friends can endanger that "comfort level."
Nothing can subsitute meeting and connecting with someone for the first time and having the first impression that this person is "girlfriend material."
I would feel awkward dating friends. Friends are forever, I wouldn't want to ruin a good friendship. And I don't like "casual" friends. I'm the sort who has a small handful of very close friends, as opposed to a large collections "party it up" friends.
But thanks for the advise. It did make me think.
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