Posted by alexandra_k on September 22, 2006, at 5:05:32
In reply to Re: Do you think its possible... » muffled, posted by Poet on September 21, 2006, at 21:06:02
I don't think people are born with a sense of self (or with a self) for them to have self esteem.
I guess babies are kind of narcissistic. I mean... they are pretty helpless. They are wet they cry. They are hungry they cry. They are sick they cry. Gotta get someones attention cause they can't change themselves or feed themselves or whatever.
Sometimes needs get frustrated... And they aren't happy campers. If your needs are frustrated a lot (because others don't and / or can't meet them) then you aren't going to be a happy camper.
When do we become self conscious?
I think around 2yrs old kids start showing an interest in their own bodies and self consciousness begins to emerge.
I guess we take our cues from others... If others tell us we are cute and give us lots of hugs when we need them and stuff then we learn to feel good about ourself.
If others tell us we are ugly and hit us and stuff then we learn to feel bad about ourself.
:-(
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