Posted by beatrix34 on May 4, 2004, at 15:22:55
In reply to relieved to find this site, posted by ghost on May 4, 2004, at 9:24:48
ghost -
Sounds like me throughout my entire dating life...until these past few years...I spent years sabotaging my relationships, pulling away from the person I was dating, spending years in relationships that were unfulfilling and void of feeling. For me, my issue is abandonment. My dad left when I was 7 years old and was then in and out of my life for many years. In my small subconscious (as a little girl), this left me with feelings of being unworthy, not good enough, etc. So I ended up becoming very black and white in my relationships. I would have a disappointment from a boyfriend and I would immediately retaliate with pulling away, stopping any affection, infidelity, etc. BUT I would often stay in the relationship for years before moving on. It took me years of therapy to even get to the point where I am now...I actually got married this past June. It can work out. I don't know if you can relate to any of this but I thought I'd share my experience with you. Hugs to you, I hope you feel better soon.The people on this site seem to be very supportive, I am pretty new as well. Hope to see you around the site.
Bea
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