Posted by Poet on December 5, 2003, at 16:04:31
In reply to Flunking Therapy, posted by mair on December 5, 2003, at 14:24:09
mair,
I thought I was failing therapy, too. See my post from yesterday.
You seem to be like me, I have trouble opening up to my therapist, even though I trust her. She knows it and promised to never push me into talking before I'm ready. It's how she gets me to feel that I am in control: I control what we talk about.
She told me that some people she sees are blurters and some slowly reveal themselves. Needing to open up slowly does not make either of us therapy failures.
It helps me to start each session with something I'm comfortable with. Even if it's the same old, same old, it helps me feel in control. After that she asks "how is ___going, are you still feeling ____, etc. I'm still in control, but she's guiding me to what we need to really talk about. Maybe starting with something that you feel comfortable with will help you open up easier for other things.
You are not flunking therapy and surprisingly neither am I!
Poet
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