Posted by Kalamatianos on December 8, 2003, at 22:55:17
In reply to Re: borderline traits, but not bd diagnosis???? , posted by helenag on December 8, 2003, at 9:48:35
Until I learned this wiggy thing of going out-of-body to look at myself, nothing else worked. What got my attention was the question asked by a friend who claimed to do it all the time, "If I twist my ankle, can you (meaning me)feel my pain?" I was stunned, but then said I couldn't.
Likewise if you are in the pain you say you are, I'm not intentionally heartless to tell you I sympathize, but in reality I can't really feel your pain for you.
Same thing applied when I first went out-of-body, I couldn't feel the pain of the other-me across the room. We are beaten as children not to have fantasies, "They are the devil's playground". But the person I now see across the room is the real-me, from the point of view of the fantasy-me. The real-me is suffering and confused, while the fantasy-me is watching and learning. After some practice, my brain began to handle the details quite well.
See? It is pretty wiggy. But don't knock success.
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