Posted by EmmyS on January 14, 2004, at 11:41:32
In reply to snapping out of it, depression is selfish, posted by cordy on January 14, 2004, at 11:20:39
An honest direct apology comes right from your heart to hers. (In my rather odd mind, it's an act of a highly spiritual nature.)
You simply look inside yourself at how you feel about what you said, and how those statements make you feel now. Speak about those feeling to her. Explain to her exactly what you explained to us - that your past struggle with your step father's illness has left you with some residual anger, and you misdirected it at her. Now that you understand that, you feel.....fill in the blank. Sad? Sorry? Embarrased?
You did the right thing - you realized that what you did just didn't feel right, you got on the internet to try to understand it from a educational point of view, you looked inside yourself for your own personal experiences, you put it all together. I'm VERY impressed. You showed tons of insight.
So, time to talk to your friend - she needs you. Hopefully, she is in a good enough place that she can be open to your apology. If not, you may need to make more than one attempt. Prepare for that possibility.
Take care of yourself so you can take care of others.
Good luck!
Emmy
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