Posted by lookdownfish on January 26, 2004, at 6:00:53
In reply to needing a hug, being refused part II (long), posted by metalflipflop on January 25, 2004, at 22:14:51
I agree with the other replies. I think you have been treated badly. One of the reassuring things about therapy is the consistency especially when other things in your life are unpredictable. So I totally understand you feeling devastated by this.
I don't understand why the no phone calls rule. Do you call often? Have you been calling more often than you used to? My therapist doesn't encourage me to call her; she says I can call "if it can't wait". I hardly ever call, but if I do, she is not willing to talk for long, and quickly wraps the conversation up. But she has always been like that, so painful though it is not to be able to ring up and have a nice soothing chat, I know the limits, so I don't expect anything else. But if your therapist has previously been willing to accept calls and you have not over-used that, then she must surely give you a good explanation for the change. If, as you said this has "always been one of her rules", then it is entirely her fault for not enforcing it in the first place.
It doesn't sound as if she's likely to respond to your letter. Would it help to schedule a one-off session, just to process this some more? Even if you do still feel you can't trust her anymore, maybe it would make you feel better to get angry with her. Maybe you could then see a way forward?
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