Posted by metalflipflop on January 26, 2004, at 9:42:26
In reply to Re: needing a hug, being refused part II (long), posted by gardenergirl on January 26, 2004, at 6:27:55
thank you all for your responses, it really means a lot for people to "get it."
my therapist spent a couple years at my university counseling center, and now a couple years in her own practice. so she isn't 'seasoned,' i would say, but she is very smart, (usually) very caring, and she understands the college student demographic. i have liked her all along b/c she is young (late 30s) and contemporary in her ideas and methods. i still have all this transference for her as my mom though, ha.
saying no more touch between us really sucks, i don't get it, i think it's kind of ridiculous, but i think (think) i could deal with it. the phone call policy though, that is the one that put us on this "break." she agrees with me that i've never abused the old policy of only calling when i need to. she doesn't have a supervisor but maybe a support group?--i don't really know. i wish i could get a straight answer at where these changes have come from.
i have thought about asking if she would want to get a consultation, mostly b/c she has been so good for me and we are finally getting somewhere on past traumas and the symptoms they caused (pretty severe depression, anxiety, anorexia). it's such bad timing, when i am so engaged!
do you think she would agree to a consultation if i put it that way, and how do we find that person who can be as objective as is possible? do we all three meet or would that be wrong b/c i would be observing her speak as a client to this other person (i.e. is this bad for the therapy relationship)? (well, i don't know if it could be worse anyway). do i pay for this therapist's hour? or do we both? who calls him/her?
so many questions, but i don't even know if it could happen. i will give it some time, to let her think. i will give her time to read my letter and think it over, and even to reply if she will do that for me. then maybe i will broach the subject. by then, she can look back on the last month or so and re-read the whole spectrum of my anger. ;)
thank you again. i hope this gets better soon.
liz
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