Posted by stebby on August 27, 2004, at 20:33:36
In reply to Re: Why bother with therapy?, posted by Starlight on August 27, 2004, at 12:24:32
Hi Starlight,
I really wish I could give up therapy, but I'm so attached it would be devastating. It does frustrate me endlessly that I am just another client coming through the door, and the attachment is so one-sided. Thanks you for the advice on the Buddhism reading. I will check it out.
Have you dealt with self-injury issues yourself? You seem to know a lot about it.
Stebby
> Hi Stebby,
> I'm sure alot of people won't like this, but I'm with you. I haven't had the transferance issues, but I'm through with therapy. I think that overall, you have to learn to love yourself, faults and all before you can move on. I think that some people really need it, as long as they think they need it, but like you said, I feel like just another client where the therapist pretends to be concerned for you, but is really just looking at you from a clinical perspective, and in the end, you're just another client coming in the swinging door.
>
> In your case - LOVE the part of you that wants to hurt yourself. Accept and care for both parts. You might want to start studying some buddhist reading material. I'm not promoting Buddhism, but there are some wonderful approaches to handling life. Once you accept and love that part of you, you aim to deny, you can let go of the guilt and shame that you have surrounding the desire to hurt yourself. There is no guilt and shame in that - for whatever reason, you use this method as a way of both protecting yourself and reaching out to others. But you've got to dig deep and learn to recognize that spark of God that you are. There are some excellent books on Jnana Yoga as well. Jnana Yoga aims to teach full acceptance of the self so that you can learn to celebrate who you are and be released from guilt and shame.
> Starlight
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