Posted by JenStar on November 17, 2004, at 9:33:38
In reply to Might be a trigger it's about children, posted by Susan47 on November 16, 2004, at 21:18:57
Susan,
I think every mom feels that way sometimes! (Or else they're not human.) I mean, kids are WORK. They're not easy, they're not clean, they're not agreeable always. They're dirty and loud and smelly and irritating. They take you away from adult concerns, coffee, TV you want to see, books you want to read, museums, career, etc. They immerse you in a world of bubble gum and he said/she said and acting up and talking back.Of course they also give hugs and smiles and joy for the future...and fullfillment. But they're not at all easy, and for people whose lives are stretched thin with work and depression and family and car payments and &&....sometimes the kids can push you to the snapping point.
Don't feel bad for feeling this way! Just don't take it out on the kids.
Probably for you, MORE time with them would make it better. If you only see them a few times a week, it's possible that more 'immersion' would help you all work together better and smooth our the rough patches. You might get more accustomed to managing YOU and THEM at the same time.
And don't forget that when you get over whatever is it you're mad about...you'll be loving them again and thanking the universe for giving you the little gems. :)
I bet you're NOT a terrible mother! Give yourself a bit more credit. Come on...tell us some of the nice things you all do together?
take care. Things will get better. Smile.
JenStar
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