Posted by sunny10 on November 18, 2004, at 9:16:13
In reply to Re: Saw » Susan47, posted by saw on November 18, 2004, at 4:25:06
Whenever you get one iota of energy, hug him. Tell him you love him. Bake cookies together, read him a book, have HIM read YOU a book.
Talk to a child psychologist about how to discuss your illness with him in age appropriate doses as he grows.
I'm sorry to say, but this will feel like more work to you. But this work you do will break the depression chain on the "nurture" side. If there are chemical issues passed along, you will have taught him coping skills, self-esteem, and given him an inner core of strength to deal with that later.
That core is what I am missing, and it is one reasons I am "butting" in. The other reason is that I waited too long to get my son into therapy for his own issues and I didn't do things right by making sure that he knew things about me in age appropriate doses. And I am having a very hard time dealing with my own guilt and watching my son have a very hard time dealing with himself and his relationship with me. I think I mentioned that he now lives with his father? He chose to live with his father, with his prior alcoholic, screaming, blacking out, father rather than live with me...
I don't want to hurt or offend, here, I'm just trying to offer my past as "what NOT to do"...
-suuny10
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