Posted by lonelygal2 on January 20, 2005, at 18:36:48
In reply to i don't want a new T, posted by shrinking violet on January 20, 2005, at 17:46:58
awww sv. i know you are having such a difficult time with this. it sucks a whole lot i know.
i had a talk with an old pdoc today and i just kept crying that i didn't want to be in therapy for forever and have to keep changing therapists and trusting people and that it wasn't fair. and she just basically acknowledged that yeah, it does suck and that therapy is very hard, but telling me that i was worth it to try to do all the hard work for.
i know that you dont' want to lose your therapist and i know that you keep saying that you want to be done with therapy too, but maybe it would be nice to have her help you to start a relationship with someone new so that you would have someone to turn to just in case you need her in the future. can you start a just-in-case sort of therapy scenario, so that someone is there as part of a fall back plan? i'm also wondering if the 3 of you could meet all together- new t, old t, and you- to sort of help you to feel more comfortable? before i decided to move and do this internship my old t had offered to do this and my immediate reaction was you're getting rid of me, but thinking about it now it seems like that would have been helpful so that you wouldn't have to meet the new person alone.
i dunno, regardless, i'm sorry you are feeling so badly. and please do tell your t all that you are feeling. why you dont' want to continue with t, or start a new relationship with someone else. i know that you've told me several times that you think doing these things would make it easier for her and that that wasn't fair- have you told her you felt that way? it's totally understandable...
well, take care and hopefully i'll see you on AIM.
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