Posted by Dinah on March 16, 2005, at 8:48:29
In reply to so what's this all about? (long a trigger ), posted by mair on March 15, 2005, at 17:14:48
Mair, again I don't think acting on a sudden change in position is usually wise. It wasn't that long ago that you were optimistic about therapy and your ability to connect. Something happened between now and then. Do you know what it was?
I try not to act on momentary feelings in any long term relationship. It's always easy to find reasons to back the feelings up, on any side of an issue. But I prefer to sit with them for a while and see if I can figure out where they came from and if they are long term in my best interests.
Sometimes the answer is to stop or pause. But I'd wait till the feelings had a chance to settle a bit before deciding. (And believe me, I have trouble believing that I ever felt any differently than I do *at this minute*. But intellectually I know I did.)
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