Posted by Susan47 on June 3, 2005, at 17:05:13
In reply to Re: Btw, I got some closure I needed from my new T » Susan47, posted by pinkeye on June 3, 2005, at 0:07:38
Some elements are alike between our situations, some are different. What I see as being alike, for one, is the fact that your therapist asked you to see someone else for a long time .. mine kept asking me what I wanted to do in therapy, what did I want from him, stuff like that. He seemed frustrated and withholding. In effect I knew I should be seeing someone other than him, I don't know why but I always felt it was wrong, I shouldn't be seeing him this way. I immediately took him into myself, spiritually speaking .. if there is such a thing as spirit. Maybe mentally.. you know that myth about soul-mates? I don't believe in that stuff. I think maybe what happens is you find someone you recognize as being fulfilling to your soul. He was that, for me. The frustration of not being able to ever have that almost .. well it felt like it was killing me. Is that transerence, misplaced identification? It didn't feel real, but it was real in my spirit, still is, it's so frustrating this way of being. Yet, some of this had some of the attributes of my first really destructive, damaging relationship, and everything bad about that was brought back. Oh, dear. I've digressed. I'm so sorry.
Yes, there are a lot of differences.
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