Posted by gardenergirl on November 13, 2005, at 7:21:41
In reply to Re: it's NOT your duty, and it WON'T hurt him to stop! » Jen Star, posted by orchid on November 13, 2005, at 0:04:47
Hi Orchid,
I just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you. I know setting a new boundary with someone is hard. Actually, I'm trying to come up with a way to avoid a "creepy hug" from an uncle at an upcoming wedding. I've decided I don't have to put up with that anymore, but I don't want to make a scene at the wedding, so I'm trying to figure out the best way to handle it. It's hard.I think in your case, setting the boundary might feel okay, but I would imagine the harder part might be maintaining it in the face of your father's attempts to hug you. Just remember, sometimes setting and keeping boundaries are the most loving thing we can do for others. It may feel like "tough love", but it ultimately can lead to more satisfying relationships. And it can help the other person learn what is and is not okay behavior.
I wish you the best, and I'm very glad you are still able to post.
Take care,
gg
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