Posted by orchid on December 10, 2005, at 1:07:14
In reply to CSA and our children **trigger?**, posted by antigua on December 9, 2005, at 13:17:41
I think it is best not to bother our kids with the issues we had at our childhood. Spare them the pain. Maybe you can give some milder form of explanation for your mood swings, but csa is very hard for any kid to understand and grasp and make peace with it.
Maybe much later, when your kids are well into adulthood, you can share it with them at that time, but definitely not before that.
It is my opinion.
> Like I said before, I seem to put "trigger" on everything.
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> For anyone who has suffered from csa: have you ever told your own children about it? If so, how old were they? how did you tell them?
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> Sometimes I think it would be good for my children to know so they would understand why I have my ups and downs, but at this point I still think maybe it's better they don't know. They do know that we don't talk about my father very much (and there are no pictures of him around--my husband's choice, not mine) but I just wonder if anyone else has dealt with this yet.
> thanks,
> antigua
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