Posted by orchid on December 13, 2005, at 4:50:05
In reply to I used Babble a whole lot, posted by Dinah on December 12, 2005, at 21:36:26
Sounds to me from your post that the worst thing you are afraid of is, to be a sexual human being. More than anything else.But I think, it is time for you to somehow try to accept that. That, it is ok to be a grown woman with appropriate needs.
Whatever happened with your dad or family when you were growing up, I think it is time to move past those issues and accept yourself as a 40 + woman, for whom it is ok to have sexual feelings, and it is ok for people to think you might have sexual feelings about them (your therapist included). What he does about it is his problem. But I think you are extremely scared of coming across as being flirty (in your own words), and it really need not be that much of a shame and guilt producing thing. It rather is expected, and ok for a woman to have those feelings.
I have a feeling that more than anything else you work on therapy, you probably need to focus on this aspect of yours, and it might end up solving all the other issues.
I know you have said in the past that you stubbornly refuse to grow up and be a woman, and you like yourself as a child. But do you really feel it is that dangerous? It may not be so.
(((Dinah)))
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