Posted by sleepygirl on December 27, 2005, at 14:35:25
In reply to I really do know nothing is magic or easy., posted by All Done on December 27, 2005, at 14:07:45
Uh...yeah, it is really hard. I don't think I have any answers for you, but some questions come to mind based on my experiences. They are just thoughts. They may or may not relate to you, but here goes....
Are you able to relate it to experiences in your life with people important to you?
When I've been able to relate my strong attachment to these experiences of disappointment or abandonment it's given me some relief, or made the feelings easier to tolerate.Do you have other important relationships in your life?
When I've been able to invest my energy in relationships with different people, I know that other important people continue to exist for me.
What's important to you in your life? What are you passionate about?
This gave me another focus, something else I needed.
I absolutely cannot say that I would be comfortable giving up my relationship with my T, but over time it has gotten less intense. I guess it has waxed and waned over time, and depending on the stress levels I've been able to handle. My T has been one constant, and I guess it's been some serious practice, leaving, dealing with the world, coming back, and knowing
he's still there.
I do really feel for you. It is difficult. I hope you talk to him about this.
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