Posted by Pfinstegg on February 23, 2006, at 22:53:12
In reply to Re: moving more deeply into ego state therapy... » Pfinstegg, posted by Daisym on February 23, 2006, at 20:52:46
Everything you are saying sounds exactly like what's going on with me! The parts do fight over who "had it worse", although , from the "meetings" , we are generally agreeing that it's the six-year-old. She is by far the most cynical and silent, and doesn't really know who my analyst is-she thinks he's her father, and says she would rather that he hated her- than rape her. So she has a long way to go, still. The others relate better to him- the infant, the three-year old, the teenager. He generally knows who's who, by voice and words, but often asks. He places a big emphasis now on the parts getting to know one another, whereas before, it was more about knowing him. The baby has a longing to be held, the three-year old wants to flirt, the teenager hopes he'll find her attractive, but the 6-year old is sadly, very hostile and detached. But, secretly, she appreciates his warmth and careful handling of her- she just doesn't say so- she's so angry. It's with her and him that there are incredibly stressful transference- and countertransference pressures. At times, my wonderful analyst, who always kept his cool, has felt mistreated and has retaliatede with little hurtful comments. We are getting this figured out now, however- thank goodness
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