Posted by Poet on May 1, 2006, at 11:24:28
In reply to Re: I'm so sad, posted by Dinah on May 1, 2006, at 9:33:21
Hi Dinah,
<< Probably more because I really don't want to give up yet, no matter how stupid my brain says that is. I keep hoping things will go back to what they were.
I'm very preservering, too. My mind set says never give up, even when I end up hurting for it. Why can't everything just be like it was (fill in time period.) Beat head against wall.
You're understandably conflicted- you know that the move is a positive one for your husband's career, and you found a house you like, but staying where you are reminds you of how safe you felt with your therapist. Granted I always see the glass as empty with a crack in it, but I wish I could see you staying where you are and having that relationship back, but from what you've posted, I don't think it will happen. I think part of what's really hurting you is that you know it, too.
You found a house you like, that's a positive step forward. You picked out a room for your study- your special space. Does your husband like anything about the house? It's location? The schools? I would love a backyard full of trees. Is your husband worried about upkeep? Maybe you can get him a hammock to relax in? I understand you liking your special place. I fell in love with my house because of one room in it. Which my husband took over. Sigh.
Take care. Many safe cyber hugs.
Poet
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