Posted by Karolina on June 2, 2006, at 11:53:43
In reply to feeling so pathetic..., posted by Karolina on June 1, 2006, at 1:54:09
Thanks fallsfall, milly and b2chica.
All of your responses made me feel a lot better, it made me feel a lot less stupid about the situation. I agree and think it would be important to bring up my feelings with him, because all this time I've seemed to hold back from explaining how I feel. I think I was hoping that if I ignored the feelings they would go away, but they definitely haven't, and keeping them all to myself hasn't seemed to help either.
My main worry is that I don't think he has been trained in how to handle attractions, or if he has, that he doesnt have to use his training much in his practice. He mainly sees adolescents and young adults. (I'm 20) Maybe it has come up before with other girls (although I hope not...but that's just me being jealous again about his other relationships with patients) so I'm kind of worried that he'll feel really awkward. And I don't know what I would do if he felt too awkward and tried to refer me to somebody else.
I just don't want him to get freaked out; with me being a 20 year old girl who fantasizes about him sexually (it might sound weird but this man is actually VERY good-looking for his age...he is really hot!), when he has a 20 year old son himself. Some of these feelings have come up before and that's when he had said he was very flattered by my attraction to him and it made him feel great to know that a girl my age liked him and had complimented my physical appearance. but I worry that for some reason now things are different, that now he'd roll his eyes and be annoyed by this. I think the only reason why I want to try and talk about it again is because the feelings are more intense. And I actually do think maybe they have to do with feelings I have about other people right now (like feeling alone without my boyfriend) so I wish we could find some therapeutic value to the attraction. Thanks again for you all's help.
-Karolina-
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