Posted by wishingstar on July 11, 2006, at 19:40:21
Sometimes I feel like my questions here are so silly and small compared to everyone elses.. I hope that isnt the case.
I need someones honest opinion on this. Is it reasonable for me to expect a return phone call in 24 hours from my T (if I ask her specifically to call me back)? Or is 24 hours really not long enough? And I'm talking about weekdays only.
I called my home T yesterday at 4pm. I asked her a specific question and told her I was upset and needed an answer from her. In the message, I told her she could reach me at these certain times, or leave a message at these other times.. either was fine. It's now 8:30pm the next day, and I never heard back. I dont get it. I feel very abandoned by her. This is by far not the first time this has happened in the last few months. But am I being unfair or unreasonable in expecting a call by now? It FEELS to me like I'm being completely reasonable.. but I could be wrong. I know she works in her office on Tuesdays, and she's only part-time, so there's no way her schedule was too packed to call...
About a year ago (before I took a several month break from therapy), I was feeling very bad and unsafe one specific week and she actually gave me her cell phone number in case I needed her urgently (since she obviously doesnt check office messages every 5 minutes). I thought it was very nice of her and I felt very supported. Now, a year or so later, I can say I'm feeling suicidal or unsafe (as I am most of the time these days) and she doesnt even call me back until 2 days later. I'm wondering if there is some negative countertransference going on, or something in her personal life that is really affecting her work. Enough theorizing though.. am I being unreasonable or expecting too much?
poster:wishingstar
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