Posted by Dinah on July 12, 2006, at 7:33:14
In reply to am I expecting too much?, posted by wishingstar on July 11, 2006, at 19:40:21
If I recall, she's done this more than once. It might be worthwhile asking her her phone policies, offer to pay for phone consultations if you haven't already, and explain how you feel when a call isn't returned.
I've done that with my therapist many times. His general policy is to return the call the same day. He tells me when he won't be able to return it until very late, even if he has no expectation that I'll call. But it took him a while of my explaining what it feels like to sit by the phone waiting for that call, and reading other people's posts to him about sitting by the phone waiting for their therapists to call, for him to grasp what the import is to some clients.
He still doesn't call back all the time. And he's told me that if he doesn't, to call him and remind him. Usually if I call and leave a brusque message like "Dinah. Reminder as requested. Call me." he calls really quickly. But it's kind of hard for me to do that, even though he's asked me to.
Try having the conversation first though. Her standard may be 48 hours. Or she might be concerned about unchargeable time.
I don't think your expectations are unreasonable, but if she's not going to fill them, she's not going to. Then you have decide if she has enough fine and useful qualities to offset that flaw.
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