Posted by Jost on August 10, 2006, at 12:03:25
In reply to Re: need to tell***serious csa trigger***, posted by bent on August 10, 2006, at 11:02:36
Bent, This is amazing. I admire you so much for taking this step.
It's hard to accept that acted against what you believed was right, even that you might have identified with your own abuser in some way, in order to feel more in control.
I dont' know what your particular feelings about that event were or are. But I know that you deserve to feel good about yourself, today, tomorrow.
That's why many people who were abused become abusers, to live with the fact of having been abused. But you aren't an abusive person. And you're working to overcome what's happened.
Other people, who know you and who care, are going to support you and admire you, because it's such a hard thing to come to terms with. We all have those secret things-- and therefore we all admire those who have the courage to face them,.
Your current T will hopefully be someone who does that, and more. She sounds caring.
Your friends here, too, who've experienced some of the same things that you have--about shame, and secrets, and working on their own loss and pain-- will also be here for you.
Jost
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