Posted by Daisym on August 12, 2006, at 20:33:15
In reply to I知 going to tie my therapist to his chair, posted by Tamar on August 10, 2006, at 18:56:04
>>>>I wish my love for him could be something good. Instead it feels immoral and inappropriate. And if I知 so sure he doesn稚 want me to love him, why would I tell him I love him? I know I shouldn稚 tell him because he doesn稚 want my love. It痴 strange how powerful it is: the longing to be allowed to love him.
<<<<<This really resonanted with me, except it isn't my therapist who is telling me I'm not allowed to love him. It is some other voice (s?) that loudly proclaim that this is presumptuous on my part and "who the he!! do I think I am to love him..." etc. And it isn't like I even want him to DO anything, I just want it to be OK for me to feel this intense about him.
Any ideas on how it can be made OK? Him telling me it is OK isn't working.
I hope the vacation goes really fast. I'm happy you found you can talk to him about sex. Those conversations are often hard to have, and yet can be really great for moving closer and building trust. I'm not surprised he was unflappable. I would expect no less.
Hang in there
Daisy
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