Posted by Dinah on October 4, 2006, at 23:43:04
In reply to Re: My T has breast cancer » Dinah, posted by mair on October 4, 2006, at 22:24:12
I'm so glad the biopsy on the second lump was negative! Whew!
It was a heck of a lot easier for me of course. Not only because we were talking prospectively rather than about something that was currently happening, but we've been discussing ad nauseum a lesser version of this.
I *think* he overestimates how well he can deal with things. After all, this is the same man who told me "I just can't deal with you right now." He keeps telling me that has nothing to do with me, but has to do with his state of mind at that moment and that he was able to deal with me later, but still... Perhaps that was something that was better kept to himself, since it still affects my interactions with him.
At any rate, I'm certain it was because he wasn't prepared for me at the moment (a phone call, not a session) and that if he asked me for my reactions to something within a session, he would in fact be prepared to hear it.
My therapist and I have argued many times over whether clients should be concerned about therapists, and I think that I've finally convinced him that regardless of theory it is unrealistic to expect that. Well, largely convinced him. He still reflexively spouts it.
I really hope that all goes well tomorrow, and it really would be good of them to set up an arrangement for someone to call those concerned (including long term clients) to let them know. But I don't suppose they generally do.
There's probably every reason to be positive though. They seem to have caught it early, and they'll be watching her carefully from here on out, I'm sure.
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