Posted by gazo on March 26, 2007, at 19:35:55
Ok... I swear I feel 100lbs lighter but 50 yrs older. :/
The new T is really really nice. I liked him ok the first meeting but it was such a blur and he didn't say much. Today was more interactive and he seems very open and unguarded. I had been worried because the first time he seemed very..i dunno.. official maybe? businessy? Today he smiled, he listened, he talked and he even made me laugh. Nicely done. :o)
We ran over time by quite a bit, as much his fault as mine.
I took the letter with me and i told him upfront that i had written one but that i had chickened out. We talked about a lot of what i had said in the letter. We talked about CBT and how he works, he was very willing to individualize and he is NOT a purist.
I told him he HAS to ask me hard questions and he has to hear what i don't say. i gave him an example of a question i felt he should have asked but didn't and he showed me his notepad.. there was three big exclamation points to remind him to ask next time... cool!!
I did tell him about my feelings for my former T. He understood instantly. I didn't tell him details, just that I was seriously attached. We talked about that for a bit. There wasn't a lot he could do in one session, esp since we had so much else to talk about.
i dettach from anything painful.. so i am able to just talk about terrible events in my life.
But I told him he HAS to ask me if he wants me to tell him something or get information. I can list off events, but he has to ask me to.. and i simply cannot speak if I try to convey feeling. I just cannot make sound come out. I said that I can't help but present this fascade to people, including him and it would likely never happen that I would cry in front of him. I told him he should buy a lotto ticket on the day that happens!He seems very sharp and extremely gentle. :o) The big thing is that I felt good about it when I left. :o) :o)
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