Posted by DAisym on August 24, 2007, at 22:26:53
In reply to Re: hate this transference stuff » canadagirl, posted by RealMe on August 24, 2007, at 22:10:23
The work you are doing is really hard and it is bound to make you prone to misinterpretations. Your therapist is right there - and the person you are likely angry with or hurt by isn't...so of course you might direct all these complicated feelings towards your therapist. I wouldn't do such early sessions if it were me but that is jusdt me. I hate mornings.
I'd like to suggest you "hear" the tone of his comment, not the actual words. In an attempt to be soothing, perhaps he misspoke. But if you can "hear" the intention, does it feel good? Try not to rehash too much, although it is very hard, I know.
I go back to work after therapy too. I find that most of the time I can compartmentalize all the feelngs and get back to work - except when I am upset with my therapist. (Which I hadn't thought about before until right now.) When I lose my connection to him, I'm rattled and find it very hard to focus on anything else. He tells me often that even when I'm upset with him, or I think he is upset with me, we are still connected and I can still "use" him as a secure base. I'm working on this, but it is very hard.
Our feelings for our therapists are just so darn complicated! And yet, when I think about therapies that don't have the relationship aspect, I know I don't want to choose that for myself. Not most days, anyway.
Try not to let this eat at you all weekend.
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