Posted by JoniS on August 28, 2007, at 11:17:21
In reply to bad, sad therapy session, posted by widget on August 28, 2007, at 10:10:45
Widget,
I typed 3-4 paragraphs then I accidentally hit the "reset" button and it was all wiped out. Now I have to be brief as I have an appointment.
Hopefully several others can give you their input as well, but here's my 2 cents. I think you're right about "baby steps" or at least a better transition from (for lack of better terms) infant to middle aged in a relatively short period of time.
I know there are different types of therapy that I'm not familiar with, but my response to your situation would be to see if he continues to push in that direction in the next session. Also see if he allows you to talk about what bothered you about the last session. It is concerning to me that he would not let you say how you felt about him, or at least help you to feel normal and fine about your tender feelings. Even though the projection is probably accurate, you still need to process those feelings. My T would have just listened and stayed calm & comfortable, and given me positive feedback in that situation, as it has occurred several times in my therapy. It sounds like your T was very uncomfortable hearing about it, and to me, that isn't good, nor the actions of a good, experienced & ethical T. But like I said, If it were me, I wouldn't write him off yet, but I'd only give it one more session and assume the previous one was just an "off" day for him, or personal issues on his mind.
You asked if you got a double message from him, and I think "yes" you did. I would have had trouble sleeping and been angry too if it were me. Hopefully you can talk about this (difficult as it would be, it is how to grow) in your next session.
I hope your anxieties and anger calm down some so you can sleep better. Most importantly, don't put any fault on yourself.
Good Luck & Take Care
Joni
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