Posted by Dory on October 29, 2007, at 9:57:12
In reply to so alone...**Trigger**, posted by B2chica on October 29, 2007, at 7:47:46
oh B2.. i am so sorry. i know how it is.. and i feel for you. i wish i could offer you answers but there aren't any really... just bits and pieces you can do. i think you did an amazing job so far... you found concrete ways to cope.
find something you can do for you.. something just for B2 that is a special treat. What was your favourite ice cream as a kid? Or maybe a day off just to sit somewhere nice and people watch. i don't know what gives you comfort. i found a special place at a library that has an indoor atrium with fountains, comfy chairs and a coffee shop. On days i don't need to be anywhere else, i go there. It doesn't make the depression go away, but it just soothes me some. Maybe you can find a place, activity or something which gives you just a bit of joy. Afterall, joy isn't a place we get to and stay there, it isn't a long term state of mind... it's just brief flashes of something, a flower, a smile, good food.. what matters is our ability to see those things as what they are. When we are depressed we don't recognize joyful things and we forget we had them.
something else i sometimes do which helps is to do some random act of kindness for someone, preferrably someone who really needs it, or a complete stranger. Do something good for no good reason. The last time i did it i bought a coffee shop gift certificate book for a cleaning lady at the mall. She thought i was nuts, but it made her day to feel appreciated. Passing on kindness gives us a warm feeling that nothing else can.
i'm grasping at straws... because i want you around. i'm selfish that way. You're a good person and the world needs good people.. i need good people. i want to know you're ok.
be safe...
poster:Dory
thread:792116
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