Posted by Dinah on December 12, 2007, at 9:29:43
In reply to Another quirky thing..I don't like gifts, posted by star008 on December 11, 2007, at 15:54:27
I don't particularly care for them either. Over the years we've drifted out of the habit of giving them, except with my husband and son and I. We take my mother out for her birthday and host the Christmas dinner, and that's about it.
I can't say I've ever been upset at what I got, except for my mother. And with her it's more a question of her thinking I'm part of her than it is with the actual gift. She'll give me something I've expressly said I don't like and say "I know you say you don't like xxxx, but this one was so cute I thought you'd change your mind." This is her way of saying, "I know you don't like it, but I do.". Or the first time she bought be clothes from the plus size shop catering to women of a certain age, the one she frequents, I cried. After that, I seemed to get something from there every year. I like to think it's because the sales ladies there make a fuss over her so she likes to shop there, rather than that she likes to make me cry. But I'm not sure...
Other than that, I just feel a bit embarassed about opening gifts that do not delight me.
To me, the best sort of gifts are the ones that aren't necessarily expensive, but that may be a bit difficult to obtain. My husband ordered me a pastry from England that I'd been remembering fondly for years. Or an autographed copy of a book. Or an agreement to hang all the pictures that are currently sitting in my closet. That sort of thing.
And of course, the very best presents are the ones my son makes for me. Especially if he writes me a short story.
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