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Re: Another quirky thing..I don't like gifts

Posted by rskontos on December 12, 2007, at 12:41:34

In reply to Re: Another quirky thing..I don't like gifts, posted by Dinah on December 12, 2007, at 9:29:43

Dinah, this may be mean but what if you just re-gifted them to her saying I know that you really it more than I do so it would really please me for you to have it.

My mother-in-law used to re-gift things to us all the time because she can't throw anything away. I remember this particularly ugly thing. It was some sort of statue thing. It was so ugly my H and I couldn't decide what it was suppose to be. Her best friend gave it to us. She in fact told us and it was suppose to be a gift to us. I was appalled but we were just married and i didnt know what to saw. My H said just hide in the attic and bring it out when she comes to visit. I saw no. I will not. Why should I take the gifts she doesn't want. I took the ugly thing to Goodwin. I bet they couldn't give it away either. Anyway I did this every year until she took the hint when she never saw the re-gifted items in our home. Then she started the thing were she would ask me what size I was and buy me two sizes bigger than I or argue with me or demand I try it on to show her I was the size I said. I said no. Besides I never liked what she bought. Then my father-in-law would demand to know if I and my daughter liked what she gave us. I would hem haw around the issue and my daughter god bless the innocent would say no or yes depending on how she felt. My FIL would get mad if she say no and if she say yes he didn't believe her. Finally they started sending money. Now they send everyone gifts but me. But I really don't care anymore. Now I don't have to pretend or thank them for anything. You should see the god awful coat they sent my 19 year old daughter. It looks like something a 12 year old would wear. Oh well not my problem cause she is strong enough to deal with them. My H would wear a potato sack coat if his mother bought for him and claimed it looked good and he loved it. LOL.....

So I give to my children and my sister's and no one else. My other sister has vanished from the scene and I don't know where she lives. And my H's sister says don't buy me anything and I won't buy you and don't send me a xmas card either. So I don't.? Works for me. The rest of my family and his we ignore as they ignore us. Works I guess. My friends locally send cards. Easy enough.

I hate to shop. You have to go into the mall and there are crowds there so...

Dinah I am sorry your mom treats like that. That hurts.
In fact I am sorry that everyone gets yucky presents. You want to borrow my mother in law I now have her trained. She sends me no presents. Works for me.

rk

 

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