Posted by rskontos on January 15, 2008, at 21:25:18
In reply to he was there.... » sunnydays, posted by sunnydays on January 15, 2008, at 20:27:06
Suunydays, my t/p-doc says the same thing, that I had no stable parent model to trust and so I trust no one and that I might run from him. He says this every time I come. I don't believe the world to be the same or people to be the same. But then again I dont expect anything from anyone so not to be disappointed. And if he does the least thing from he knows I will disappear. Like today, I mixed up the appointment time, showed up WAY early and he rearranged the time so he could go ahead and meet with me, I got upset and said I would come back but he had already sent the other young man away. I said why would you do that, he said I know he will be back, you I don't know if you can make it back or will. It is my fault anyway for changing your appt. time so much. I was floored he took the blame. It was my fault. I got home and found the appt, card. I had the wrong time. I was 2 hours early. He saw me anyway. He is trying to retrain me to see him as a stable parent. It will take a while as neither of my parents were stable. So I do understand what your t is saying. When your parents are not stable you trust no one to be stable or your world to remain stable. Does this make more sense. As part of your therapy you should start to see him or your t as the stable one. at least that is what mine says. I can't even remember my appt time much less if the world is the same LOL.....
Glad your T is a warm smiley type..... And of course he means it.... I think the problem is connection.....you haven't a connection to school when you gone right? To you, your gone and so school is gone from your mind right? But not your T he isn't gone? Your t you still think about, I am guessing.. and that is a good thing I think.
rsk
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