Posted by rskontos on January 17, 2008, at 19:31:55
In reply to Re: he was there...., posted by sunnydays on January 17, 2008, at 17:28:33
SunnyDays, you know something from the thread that Miss K started and a post by Seldom got me thinking about this. And with what you said, what I have begun to think that therapy and all this is to help with (the transference thing) is that in looking at them (the T's) as a stable parent when they are gone or hurt or at work or wherever they are when we are not around them, they will remain who they are essential to us. That is how we are to begin to see a different way than our parent or parents were to us. And we slowly begin to understand and replace that damaged image in our minds with the one that they have created. If they give an ideal, one in which they are always perfect and never mess up, then when someone IRL does we won't be able to cope any better than we did when our damaged parents gave us their orginial version of how the world works. So in as much as a T replaces them they still must show how to function within the scope of a imperfect world so the relationship with them (the T;s) will not always be perfect to help set up the same scenario that allows us all the situations we will need to help us eventually cope on our own. I hope I make some sense as this idea is just germinating and will I admit go through more changes but I am getting the idea I think.
I hope this helps some. But I do see how you feel and can relate to such a degree. rsk
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