Posted by Dinah on February 7, 2008, at 22:45:21
In reply to Need a Second Opinion (Big Trigger+ Long), posted by mair on February 7, 2008, at 17:53:28
Mair, I can understand feeling upset that she kept it a secret. It never feels good to know that someone else knew something important to you and didn't tell you.
I'm guessing my therapist wouldn't have said anything either, if for no other reason than that he isn't in the habit of discussing anyone else in our therapy unless I bring it up. If I noticed he was upset and if I asked, he likely would mention it. But otherwise I don't think he would. Or if I mentioned the pdoc's name, he probably would.
I think it's a difficult situation and because it is so unusual and so difficult it really isn't easy to know what the right thing to do would be. Not for anyone. Thank God, it's not something anyone prepares for. I'm sure it is upsetting to your therapist. I'd think it would have a lot of mental health professionals putting themselves in your pdoc's shoes.
Is it possible you're feeling more than enough anger to go around right now? Your pdoc's husband committed suicide using the method you've thought about. His actions indirectly had an impact on you, and directly had an impact on your pdoc and your therapist and your relationships with them. Everything's all shaken up.
You don't have to be entitled to be angry. My therapist always tells me to quit deciding if I'm being reasonable in being angry with him. That it doesn't matter if I'm being reasonable. That I'm angry and it's more important to talk about that.
(((Mair)))
You've had more than your share of trouble from your care team lately. I'm so sorry this happened after your therapist's health issues.
poster:Dinah
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