Posted by ClearSkies on February 12, 2008, at 7:11:12
In reply to t saw emergency noodle, posted by llurpsienoodle on February 11, 2008, at 21:34:34
> He made me feel better, but told me that the best help for depression that HE knew of was to fake having a normal life with all our strength until it becomes easier and less forced.
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> I was crestfallen. I had hoped he had a better answer.
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> sigh.
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> there are no easy fixes.
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> -LlNow isn't THAT interesting - my T has told me that my tendency to smile through the tough times (and bottle up my emotions in doing do) was indicative of my past codependent behavior. Sure feels like that - all those years of growing up in an alcoholic household and all of us family members pretending that nothing was wrong. My tendency now is to try to do the same, but the suffering inside is exponentially worse than when I was young. My resiliency, it would seem, has worn away to nothing.
I guess the answer is that there is a middle ground here. That we have to acknowledge that there is something wrong some days, but that we're not to give in to it? (But that doesn't feel right somehow either.) My T's advice has been to *not* try to smile through the hard times, but to honour them gently.
Surely both these wise people know what they're talking about - and surely you and I come from totally different experiences; but isn't it strange that we're getting opposite advice about depressed states?
What's your take on this?
CS
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