Posted by TherapyGirl on July 17, 2009, at 14:49:39
In reply to Are sheepdogs born or made?, posted by Dinah on July 17, 2009, at 12:44:55
As you know, Dinah, we are a lot alike in these ways. I don't know if you were born that way, but I suspect it has at least something to do with your primary attachment from childhood. I know it does for me. I think if you don't learn how to healthily attach in those early years, it is much harder to attach in the first place and then have the object of your attachment leave, or to leave them.
There are people I can walk away from without a second thought. But those are not the people who feel like family to me -- a best friend (though less so now since last Jan.), a woman I consider my sister in everything except biology, my pseudo-son and my T (my mother). Those are the people I can't seem to walk away from. Not without great emotional and physical harm to myself. And yet two of them have walked away from me or are planning to in the near future.
Sigh.
I hope you are wrong about the remainder of your life. And if you and your T figure anything out about this, please fill me in, okay?
P.S. The first dog I ever loved (best friend's therapy dog) is a Sheltie-Corgi mix. Talk about attachment and loyalty...
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