Posted by seldomseen on July 18, 2009, at 15:34:25
In reply to Are sheepdogs born or made?, posted by Dinah on July 17, 2009, at 12:44:55
"He delves into my early experiences and wants me to think of why I am the way I am. I can't think of any particular reason. I think sheepdogs are born not made. I'd like to attach easily and handle the ending of relationships well. I don't. I don't think I ever will."
I would like to know how you define the end of a relationship. Because it can mean different things to different people I think.
I think two people can be miles and miles apart, perhaps even never speak again, and still a permanent relationship exists between them.
And I do think your therapist is right. The more people that one is emotionally connected to, the better one is at connecting to others, and absorbing the loss of a physical presence of another. It's like we internalize the pack almost. The loss of one member is less devastating yet the pack remains intact and we are still whole in it.
Seldom.
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