Posted by LibraryGirl on July 21, 2009, at 9:02:07
In reply to Re: when your T becomes more than a T, posted by emilyp on July 19, 2009, at 11:37:26
I know how you feel. My first T was like that; I was a graduate student and she was a social worker at the counseling center on campus. I saw her for two years. We gave each other gifts, hugs, she'd email me, call me on breaks. She'd urge me to get rest, or do my homework, or eat. Our sessions were hard though; I couldn't talk in sessions which drove her nuts, we'd say things to hurt each other on purpose. It was a love-hate struggle. Finally she said she couldn't see me anymore. It's been four years and I still miss her, hate her, and everything in between. I do have another T but the relationship is different. You'll probably never find another T who will replace your former one. The best you can hope for is someone you feel comfortable with and someone you feel understands you. I also find it's best not to judge a T after one or two sessions, and not to compare them to the former one (hard, I know). Your former T knew a lot about you and that took time to build; a new T can't be expected to know the same things your former T knew without the time to get to know you. I know it hurts and I'm sorry. Good luck and take care.
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