Posted by antigua3 on July 21, 2009, at 12:04:18
In reply to to terminate or keep going, posted by deerock on July 21, 2009, at 10:18:34
Well, the fact that you're able to get so angry says something about your relationship, that you feel free enough to express it. From my experience only, I had a lot of negative transference with my pdoc for a long time. Once I realized why I so angry at him, for not giving me what I thought I wanted (OK, I did want it) and I could pinpoint where the anger was really coming from, things started to change. He said once that the negative transference was just the flip side of "positive" transference and transparent.
I still get angry at him at times, and really frustrated when he doesn't respond, but I don't care anymore. He "blank slates" me when I do this, forcing me to look inside myself to see what is really triggering the anger.
FWIW, I spent years resisting, until I could locate the source of my anger, and things have been pretty good ever since.
Unlike you, I don't want to know a thing about my pdoc so I can only imagine how frustrating it must be. Do you know why you want to know personal information? What purpose does it serve for you?
I'm sorry I'm not much help, but I do know how you feel. I've thought of leaving my pdoc a million times, but I've stayed and it has been worth it in the long run. But I don't advocate staying if you two can't really communicate.
antigua
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